What NOT to Say to Someone Who is Diagnosed with Mesothelioma

April 24, 2014

When a friend or loved one is given a mesothelioma diagnosis, your first reaction will likely be to try and provide as much support as you possibly can. You have to realize, though, that the patient is going through an incredibly emotional time, and could very well be hypersensitive to anything you may say. As well-meaning as you may be, the patient could easily misconstrue that support and take it the wrong way. Here are some examples of what to avoid when talking to someone who has just received this devastating news.

“You’re going to be just fine.”

Nobody knows that – not you, and definitely not the person you’re trying to encourage. That kind of statement could actually have the opposite effect than what you intended. It may sound like nothing more than an empty platitude and could make the person feel worse. Instead, just tell the patient that you’ll be there for him or her through the good times and the bad times. There will be days where everything will, in fact, seem just fine. But there will be other days where the patient may be in tremendous pain or will have just received discouraging test results.

“I know just what you’re going through.”

Unless you’ve actually been diagnosed with mesothelioma and gone through the treatment, there’s no way you can actually know what the patient is experiencing. You’re trying to express your compassion, of course, but what you might wind up doing is upsetting him or her. A better approach would simply be to give the person a chance to tell you how he or she is feeling.

“Don’t stress – stay positive and relax.”

There are going to be times where the patient doesn’t want to be positive. If he or she tends to be prone to stress, the last thing you want to do is somehow plant the idea that the stress was the reason the mesothelioma developed in the first place. You don’t want to infer that if only that person had a sunnier disposition, he or she would be fine. There’s a very good chance that all you’ll do is make the patient feel even more anxious and worried – and perhaps even guilty for not being a “happier person.” Try actually helping the person relax rather than just telling him or her to do so. Simply being there to help in any way can be a great help in reducing stress and tension.

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