Important Truths We Want Our Loved Ones to Know About Cancer

June 5, 2014

Let’s call them your treatment team — the families, friends and loved ones who join together with you during your fight against cancer. Your treatment team can offer love, a shoulder to cry on, constant support and a helping hand with life’s necessities like preparing meals and getting to and from doctor’s appointments. We’d be nothing without our treatment teams, and we are always thankful for their love and support.

Yet, with cancer, no one is perfect. It’s hard to know what to say at all times to make your loved one feel better and the experience is difficult for everyone involved. That’s why we thought it would be helpful today to share some of the most important things we want our loved ones to know about cancer:

  1. Cancer is difficult and it can make us much more sensitive and emotional than we ever were before. Even the “strongest” types have bad days when it comes to cancer — days when they can’t help but let their tears show. And that’s okay. Because cancer is hard.
  2. With that in mind, we may not be able to stay positive 100 percent of the time. Sometimes we need to let out all of our frustrations, to vent and to speak truthfully about how we are hurting. That does not mean we are giving up the fight. It just means we can’t be expected to be positive all of the time.
  3. No matter how difficult and painful cancer is: I Am Not My Cancer. I still like doing many of the things I used to do pre-cancer and I’m still the same person, no matter what the diagnosis may be.
  4. Want to help someone with cancer? Visit them in person! Loving phone calls, emails and text messages are great but they can only go so far. To show your love is unconditional, show up and be there when your loved one could use the company.
  5. Likewise, don’t flee at the first sign of “Cancer!” We are not contagious and we won’t make you sick just by being around us. Instead, the friends and family that stick around while their loved one is struggling with cancer, those are the ones you will always remember and cherish. Because they showed you what every cancer patient wants — unconditional love and acceptance.
  6. Don’t hide from the Big Topic. We won’t break if you mention the word “cancer” out loud. Instead, we could really use a friend who is ready and able to talk about the elephant in the room. Denial will only get us so far. But faith in our friendship and love, no matter the circumstance? That goes a long, long way.

We hope these cancer truths were helpful to you. But we all know they are just the tip of the iceberg. If you have a special cancer truth that you would like people to know, please share it wish us below our on our Facebook page www.facebook.com/Fight.Mesothelioma.

And if you or your loved one has suffered from the cancer known as mesothelioma, a cancer caused by asbestos, please give us a call at (866) 538-0485 or contact us here to find out how we might be able help you.