Finding Balance and Perspective
Have you heard a flight attendant tell parents that, if the cabin loses air pressure, they must put on their own oxygen masks first before helping their children? There are two reasons they have to say this: (1) you cannot help someone else effectively unless you take care of yourself, and (2) when we are trying to take care of someone we love, we often forget about taking care of ourselves. All caregivers struggle to balance taking care of their own physical and emotional needs while they care for the needs of someone else—someone they love who needs their help.
Remember, taking time to handle your own needs isn’t selfish; it’s necessary so that you can continue caring for your loved one.
Here are a few ideas for finding and holding on to the balance and perspective you’ll need:
- Find someone you can talk to and discuss your feelings. All feelings are legitimate, even those that upset you (anger, sadness, guilt).
- Set realistic goals. Balancing work, family, and time for you is difficult. Determine your priorities, and turn to other people for help with some tasks.
- Carve out time for yourself, even if it’s just an hour or two. Go to a movie, have lunch with a friend, or just sit and read a book.